måndag 11 augusti 2014

If I don't love you, remind me to wake myself up!


If I don't love you, remind me to wake myself up!
-Byron Katie; https://www.facebook.com/theworkofbyronkatie

Love to everyone. All humans and all nonhuman animals.
When we wake up, we realize we are all One.
No separation, no limits, no boundaries.
True Love.
In True Love there is Forgiveness.
No violence in words and deeds.
In True Love there are no others.
In True Love we relate in the Now, in the Present Moment, and not based on our images of 'ourself' and 'others' (including 'others' past).

And when we Truly Love we don't harm each other. We don't participate in discrimination. We don't violate others interests. We don't use others. We don't harm, kill and use others for food (meat, fish, dairy, eggs, etc.), clothes, vivisection, war and other purposes.

Finally one more quote I love:“If her past were your past, her pain your pain, her level of consciousness your level of consciousness, you would think and act exactly as she does. With this realization comes forgiveness, compassion, peace. ”

Tolle, Eckhart (2009-03-25). Stillness Speaks (Kindle Locations 583-584). New World Library. Kindle Edition.

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lördag 2 augusti 2014

Poem - you are Infinite, not a fragment of bad self-esteem

You are Infinite, not a fragment of bad self-esteem
Your thoughts are saying:
You are worthless.
It echoes in your body.
You feel low and depressed.
You try to suppress your thoughts..
But the more you try to suppress them, the more intense they get.
Others are judging you.
You are judging yourself

In this world of facades, where only some facades are deemed to be accepted.
Where people hide their true self, and play a game of facades because they are afraid of being rejected.
Where people are afraid of being authentic.
Where you are judged because you happen to experience some thoughts.

Listen, my friend.
You are not a limited cluster of thoughts and feelings.
Yes, you have made it to your identity. 
But you are not your thoughts of depression and low self-esteem.
Your thoughts come and go.
Your bodily sensations come and go.

I love you my friend.
Please come Home.
Home
Our Home without limits.
Where there is Peace that surpasses all understanding
And Unconditional Love

You are already Home.
But you fail to see this because that you have identified yourself with a broken piece.
You are not that broken piece.
You are complete.
You are aware of all your broken pieces, but you are not your broken pieces.
You are aware of all your crushed dreams, but you are not all your crushed dreams.
You are aware of all your broken hopes and sorrows, but you are not your broken hopes and sorrows.
You are Unlimited, All-Embracing.
Nothing can harm the True You.
You are complete.

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Peace and love in a fragmented world

Rustling leaves.

Swaying trees.

Dancing in the Now.

Birds twittering, rejoicing, being.

Singing, listening.

No worries at all.

Embracing the Present Moment

The Reality that most of humans forgot.

Nature is testifying and calling us.

Teaching us by example.


But most of us humans have lost the true Reality.

We are living in and clinging to the past or the future in their pursuit of identity and search of completeness, peace and happiness.

Entering into and clinging to relationships and acquiring objects to fill our wants, desires and needs, to become complete, to end our suffering; and leaving the relationships and/or objects when the illusion is broken and it is found out that the ‘other’ couldn’t complete us, and the suffering that was dormant resurfaces.

There is no real freedom.

Our lives are being governed by past conditioning.


We are being violent by treating each other (including all animals) as ‘others’.

We treat each other as fragmented pieces that can be used to fill our wants and needs for happiness and completeness.

We confuse Love with clinging and sticking to/using/entering into a relationship with someone or something to fill our wants, needs and our longing to be complete.


And in this pursuit (of all that was mentioned above) we are destroying each other, all animals and the world. (In relationships, in wars, in other interpersonal conflicts; causing emotional and physical harm and death to animals when we use them for entertainment, clothes, food (dairy, eggs, meat, fish, honey, etc.), vivisection, etc.)

Realization of our Oneness will bring Healing to the disharmony created by our erroneous view of seeing and treating ourselves and others as fragmented and broken pieces.

When we realize that We are Unchanging Awareness, the One Being aware of our ever changing thoughts/sensations/body/emotions. (You who are aware of your thoughts, emotions, etc., has never changed throughout all ‘your’ life; ‘your’ thoughts/emotions, etc. change all the time.)


When we stop identifying ourselves and others with ours/their past, ours/their mistakes or successes, good or bad self­-esteem, other limitations, or other images that we project.
When we realize and live according to this understanding, we can truly act out of True Love and Oneness; and stop treating each other as separate and broken ‘others’.


To relate to ‘others’ from the depth of our Being; instead of relating to each other from our fragmented and broken separate-self to our fragmented and broken image of each other.
In the moments we don’t live according to this understanding, we are perpetuating brokenness, disharmony and fragmentation regardless of ‘our’ best intentions.
When we live and embrace this Realization we will live in Peace, Love and Harmony. It will bring  true and lasting transformation.

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And here ‘I’ am breathing.

Waiting

Longing

Being

Wanting to embrace the Now.

But maybe that’s the problem.

‘My’ wanting is seeking for an embrace in a future moment.


Embrace the Present Moment Now.

‘You’ are already embraced by the Present Moment.

You are the Present Moment. You are Inseparable Life.

‘You’ just need to realize this and embrace her back.

Effortlessly

Surrender

Healing

Love

Completeness

Fullness

Inner Joy.

Calmness in the midst of the stormy ocean.





-Anders Branderud

Two pieces of a puzzles searching for completeness

Two pieces of a puzzle, feeling broken and incomplete, were searching for completeness.
One day they found each other.
They thought either consciously or unconsciously: If I only get together with that other piece – I will feel complete, and it will be an end to my suffering and to my problems.
Finally they connected and for a while they felt complete, for a while their suffering of being fragmented pieces was dormant.

For short, brief and Timeless Moments they gave up searching, possessing and wanting; and in those moments they were United With the Infinite Puzzle - experiencing Serenity, Peace and Unconditional Love.
But they erroneously attributed these experiences to their fragmented image of each other.
And searching and wanting to feel like a Complete Infinite Puzzle, mistaking and identifying themselves with a fragmented piece, they missed that they already are an Complete Infinite Puzzle.


One day conflicts arose, suffering arose, and the illusion broke to pieces.
The pieces tried really hard to get together again, they even tried subconsciously to manipulate each other because they wanted the other piece to look and to be in a certain way (to provide them completeness); and after a lot of hard efforts to get the relationship to work, and one piece trying to convince the other piece that they should stick together, suddenly one of the pieces accepted the puzzle just as it was in that Moment; and for a brief moment the searching and the wanting stopped. And in that brief Moment when the search and the wanting stopped for both puzzle pieces, when the Moment was accepted exactly as it is, they both experienced Unconditional Love and Peace.

But instead of understanding that they were all part of this Infinite Puzzle of Unconditional Love and Peace all the time, that they were the Infinite Puzzle in Every Moment, they attributed this experience to their own fragmented image of each other. And then when they started searching and wanting again, the experience vanished, and they continued their pursuit of wanting the other piece to fit perfectly into their fragmented view of the puzzle. 

Then conflicts arose again, and the illusion was shattered to pieces again.
After a lot of hard effort trying to become complete by connecting to one piece of the infinite puzzle, one of the pieces gave up.
She thought: This piece is not the piece that is going to complete me. She is the cause of the suffering and incompleteness that has now resurfaced in me. So she left and started to search for completeness elsewhere – looking for that one single, fragmented piece of the infinite puzzle, that miraculously would make herself feeling like an Infinite and Complete puzzle.
The other piece felt abandoned and suffered for a while, until she realized that there is no other piece that can provide completeness and happiness; and that she is already Complete, being One with the Infinite Puzzle.

It was always impossible, you see.
‘I’ was supposed to complete ‘you’.
‘You’ were supposed to complete ‘me’.
Two broken and fragmented pieces of an Infinite puzzle trying to become complete.
Yet, they feel broken.
Because they feel that there are pieces missing.
And then they start blaming each other.
‘It is your fault’ that I am not happy, that I am suffering, and that I am not complete.

Like two waves in the ocean who feel incomplete, because that they don’t realize that they are the Ocean.
They are two pieces in a puzzle feeling incomplete, because they don’t realize that they are the Infinite puzzle.

Like two trees in a forest feeling incomplete because that they don’t realize that they are the forest.
They are two humans in the world feeling incomplete, because they don’t realize that they are Inseparable with Life; that their true Identity is Unchanging Awareness.

They feel Incomplete because that they don’t realize that the puzzle already is Complete; that they are One with the Infinite Puzzle. That they are the Infinite Inseparable Puzzle.

They suffer and feel incomplete because they have mistaken their identity to be pieces of a fragmented and incomplete puzzle.
And they continue to suffer and feel incomplete as long as they pursue the impossible pursuit of finding completeness in other pieces of the Infinite puzzle. 


-Anders Branderud
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onsdag 30 juli 2014

Unconditional love, love without conditions, a love that liberates


Love this quote about true LOVE ♥:
"THE FLOWERING OF LOVE

When you see a flower in the garden, and in the presence of that flower you feel good and alive, you call the flower 'beautiful', and you cut the flower out of the ground, and you place the flower in a vase on your windowsill. You say to the flower, "You are mine and mine alone, beautiful flower; you make me happy and whole; do not leave me and do not change or I will be broken…", and you have the audacity to call this 'love'.

Wrenched from its natural ground, divided from Source, the flower is 'yours' for a while, yes, you can tell yourself that, but soon it withers and dies, starved of life and possibility. Deep down, you know that the flower could never be 'yours', so anxiety and sadness rumble underneath the entire project from the start. This is not unconditional love, friends, this is possession; fear masquerading as love. This is the attempted annihilation of beauty in the name of security, and it is what we are taught and sold, and it is why your human relationships are fraught with such drama, unspoken expectations and deep sorrow.

Wake up to a deeper kind of love, friends, a love without conditions, a love that liberates, a love that never says "you are mine", a love that would never wrench a flower from its beloved ground, a love that won't possess or control but sees the beauty in another's ungraspability, and loves their freedom despite the pain. A love that doesn't come from without but is the nature of the within, the inevitable consequence of knowing how free you truly are.

Love the flower, see the beauty and the fragility of the flower, yes, be infinitely kind to the flower, but never forget, it cannot be yours and it cannot complete you. It belongs to the universe.

Love the entire universe through the flower, and let go of promises. We only make promises because we do not trust ourselves. There is only Now, and that is the ground of love, and its fertiliser.

– Jeff Foster"
From http://www.deepestacceptance.com/





--------- Another quote:

Your body is away from me
But there is a window open from my heart to yours. From this window, like the moon I keep sending news secretly.
~Rumi

måndag 28 juli 2014

Good quotes about relationships, Stilness speaks

As long as the ego runs your life, most of your thoughts, emotions, and actions arise from desire and fear. In relationships you then either want or fear something from the other person. What you want from them may be pleasure or material gain, recognition, praise or attention, or a strengthening of your sense of self through comparison and through establishing that you are, have, or know more than they. What you fear is that the opposite may be the case, and they may diminish your sense of self in some way.


When you make the present moment the focal point of your attention — instead of using it as a means to an end — you go beyond the ego and beyond the unconscious compulsion to use people as a means to an end, the end being self-enhancement at the cost of others. When you give your fullest attention to whoever you are interacting with, you take past and future out of the relationship, except for practical matters. When you are fully present with everyone you meet, you relinquish the conceptual identity you made for them — your interpretation of who they are and what they did in the past — and are able to interact without the egoic movements of desire and fear. Attention, which is alert stillness, is the key. How wonderful to go beyond wanting and fearing in your relationships. Love does not want or fear anything. If her past were your past, her pain your pain, her level of consciousness your level of consciousness, you would think and act exactly as she does. With this realization comes forgiveness, compassion, peace. The ego doesn't like to hear this, because if it cannot be reactive and righteous anymore, it will lose strength.


Tolle, Eckhart (2009-03-25). Stillness Speaks (Kindle Locations 578-584). New World Library. Kindle Edition.


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Do you experience frequent and repetitive drama in your close relationships? Do relatively insignificant disagreements often trigger violent arguments and emotional pain? At the root of such experiences lie the basic egoic patterns: the need to be right and, of course, for someone else to be wrong; that is to say, identification with mental positions. There is also the ego's need to be periodically in conflict with something or someone in order to strengthen its sense of separation between “me” and the “other” without which it cannot survive. In addition, there is the accumulated emotional pain from the past that you and each human being carries within, both from your personal past as well as the collective pain of humanity that goes back a long, long time. This “pain-body” is an energy field within you that sporadically takes you over because it needs to experience more emotional pain for it to feed on and replenish itself. It will try to control your thinking and make it deeply negative. It loves your negative thoughts, since it resonates with their frequency and so can feed on them. It will also provoke negative emotional reactions in people close to you, especially your partner, in order to feed on the ensuing drama and emotional pain. How can you free yourself from this deep-seated unconscious identification with pain that creates so much misery in your life? Become aware of it. Realize that it is not who you are, and recognize it for what it is: past pain. Witness it as it happens in your partner or in yourself. When your unconscious identification with it is broken, when you are able to observe it within yourself, you don't feed it anymore, and it will gradually lose its energy charge.


Tolle, Eckhart (2009-03-25). Stillness Speaks (Kindle Locations 624-625). New World Library. Kindle Edition.


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To know another human being in their essence, you don't really need to know anything about them — their past, their history, their story. We confuse knowing about with a deeper knowing that is non-conceptual.


Knowing about and knowing are totally different modalities. One is concerned with form, the other with the formless. One operates through thought, the other through stillness. Knowing about is helpful for practical purposes. On that level, we cannot do without it. When it is the predominant modality in relationships, however, it becomes very limiting, even destructive. Thoughts and concepts create an artificial barrier, a separation between human beings. Your interactions are then not rooted in Being, but become mind-based. Without the conceptual barriers, love is naturally present in all human interactions.


Tolle, Eckhart (2009-03-25). Stillness Speaks (Kindle Locations 589-594). New World Library. Kindle Edition.


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When you look upon another human being and feel great love toward them, or when you contemplate beauty in nature and something within you responds deeply to it, close your eyes for a moment and feel the essence of that love or that beauty within you, inseparable from who you are, your true nature. The outer form is a temporary reflection of what you are within, in your essence. That is why love and beauty can never leave you, although all outer forms will.
Tolle, Eckhart (2009-03-25). Stillness Speaks (Kindle Locations 627-630). New World Library. Kindle Edition.


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What a miserable day. He didn't have the decency to return my call. She let me down. Little stories we tell ourselves and others, often in the form of complaints. They are unconsciously designed to enhance our always deficient sense of self through being “right” and making something or someone “wrong.” Being “right” places us in a position of imagined superiority and so strengthens our false sense of self, the ego. This also creates some kind of enemy:
yes, the ego needs enemies to define its boundary, and even the weather can serve that function.


Through habitual mental judgment and emotional contraction, you have a personalized, reactive relationship to people and events in your life. These are all forms of self-created suffering, but they are not recognized as such because to the ego they are satisfying. The ego enhances itself through reactivity and conflict. How simple life would be without those stories. It is raining. He did not call. I was there. She was not.


Tolle, Eckhart (2009-03-25). Stillness Speaks (Kindle Locations 769-775). New World Library. Kindle Edition.
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When you are suffering, when you are unhappy, stay totally with what is Now. Unhappiness or problems cannot survive in the Now.
Tolle, Eckhart (2009-03-25). Stillness Speaks (Kindle Locations 776-777). New World Library. Kindle Edition.