onsdag 30 juli 2014

Unconditional love, love without conditions, a love that liberates

Love this quote about true LOVE ♥:

When you see a flower in the garden, and in the presence of that flower you feel good and alive, you call the flower 'beautiful', and you cut the flower out of the ground, and you place the flower in a vase on your windowsill. You say to the flower, "You are mine and mine alone, beautiful flower; you make me happy and whole; do not leave me and do not change or I will be broken…", and you have the audacity to call this 'love'.

Wrenched from its natural ground, divided from Source, the flower is 'yours' for a while, yes, you can tell yourself that, but soon it withers and dies, starved of life and possibility. Deep down, you know that the flower could never be 'yours', so anxiety and sadness rumble underneath the entire project from the start. This is not unconditional love, friends, this is possession; fear masquerading as love. This is the attempted annihilation of beauty in the name of security, and it is what we are taught and sold, and it is why your human relationships are fraught with such drama, unspoken expectations and deep sorrow.

Wake up to a deeper kind of love, friends, a love without conditions, a love that liberates, a love that never says "you are mine", a love that would never wrench a flower from its beloved ground, a love that won't possess or control but sees the beauty in another's ungraspability, and loves their freedom despite the pain. A love that doesn't come from without but is the nature of the within, the inevitable consequence of knowing how free you truly are.

Love the flower, see the beauty and the fragility of the flower, yes, be infinitely kind to the flower, but never forget, it cannot be yours and it cannot complete you. It belongs to the universe.

Love the entire universe through the flower, and let go of promises. We only make promises because we do not trust ourselves. There is only Now, and that is the ground of love, and its fertiliser.

– Jeff Foster"
From http://www.deepestacceptance.com/

--------- Another quote:

Your body is away from me
But there is a window open from my heart to yours. From this window, like the moon I keep sending news secretly.

måndag 28 juli 2014

Good quotes about relationships, Stilness speaks

As long as the ego runs your life, most of your thoughts, emotions, and actions arise from desire and fear. In relationships you then either want or fear something from the other person. What you want from them may be pleasure or material gain, recognition, praise or attention, or a strengthening of your sense of self through comparison and through establishing that you are, have, or know more than they. What you fear is that the opposite may be the case, and they may diminish your sense of self in some way.

When you make the present moment the focal point of your attention — instead of using it as a means to an end — you go beyond the ego and beyond the unconscious compulsion to use people as a means to an end, the end being self-enhancement at the cost of others. When you give your fullest attention to whoever you are interacting with, you take past and future out of the relationship, except for practical matters. When you are fully present with everyone you meet, you relinquish the conceptual identity you made for them — your interpretation of who they are and what they did in the past — and are able to interact without the egoic movements of desire and fear. Attention, which is alert stillness, is the key. How wonderful to go beyond wanting and fearing in your relationships. Love does not want or fear anything. If her past were your past, her pain your pain, her level of consciousness your level of consciousness, you would think and act exactly as she does. With this realization comes forgiveness, compassion, peace. The ego doesn't like to hear this, because if it cannot be reactive and righteous anymore, it will lose strength.

Tolle, Eckhart (2009-03-25). Stillness Speaks (Kindle Locations 578-584). New World Library. Kindle Edition.


Do you experience frequent and repetitive drama in your close relationships? Do relatively insignificant disagreements often trigger violent arguments and emotional pain? At the root of such experiences lie the basic egoic patterns: the need to be right and, of course, for someone else to be wrong; that is to say, identification with mental positions. There is also the ego's need to be periodically in conflict with something or someone in order to strengthen its sense of separation between “me” and the “other” without which it cannot survive. In addition, there is the accumulated emotional pain from the past that you and each human being carries within, both from your personal past as well as the collective pain of humanity that goes back a long, long time. This “pain-body” is an energy field within you that sporadically takes you over because it needs to experience more emotional pain for it to feed on and replenish itself. It will try to control your thinking and make it deeply negative. It loves your negative thoughts, since it resonates with their frequency and so can feed on them. It will also provoke negative emotional reactions in people close to you, especially your partner, in order to feed on the ensuing drama and emotional pain. How can you free yourself from this deep-seated unconscious identification with pain that creates so much misery in your life? Become aware of it. Realize that it is not who you are, and recognize it for what it is: past pain. Witness it as it happens in your partner or in yourself. When your unconscious identification with it is broken, when you are able to observe it within yourself, you don't feed it anymore, and it will gradually lose its energy charge.

Tolle, Eckhart (2009-03-25). Stillness Speaks (Kindle Locations 624-625). New World Library. Kindle Edition.


To know another human being in their essence, you don't really need to know anything about them — their past, their history, their story. We confuse knowing about with a deeper knowing that is non-conceptual.

Knowing about and knowing are totally different modalities. One is concerned with form, the other with the formless. One operates through thought, the other through stillness. Knowing about is helpful for practical purposes. On that level, we cannot do without it. When it is the predominant modality in relationships, however, it becomes very limiting, even destructive. Thoughts and concepts create an artificial barrier, a separation between human beings. Your interactions are then not rooted in Being, but become mind-based. Without the conceptual barriers, love is naturally present in all human interactions.

Tolle, Eckhart (2009-03-25). Stillness Speaks (Kindle Locations 589-594). New World Library. Kindle Edition.


When you look upon another human being and feel great love toward them, or when you contemplate beauty in nature and something within you responds deeply to it, close your eyes for a moment and feel the essence of that love or that beauty within you, inseparable from who you are, your true nature. The outer form is a temporary reflection of what you are within, in your essence. That is why love and beauty can never leave you, although all outer forms will.
Tolle, Eckhart (2009-03-25). Stillness Speaks (Kindle Locations 627-630). New World Library. Kindle Edition.


What a miserable day. He didn't have the decency to return my call. She let me down. Little stories we tell ourselves and others, often in the form of complaints. They are unconsciously designed to enhance our always deficient sense of self through being “right” and making something or someone “wrong.” Being “right” places us in a position of imagined superiority and so strengthens our false sense of self, the ego. This also creates some kind of enemy:
yes, the ego needs enemies to define its boundary, and even the weather can serve that function.

Through habitual mental judgment and emotional contraction, you have a personalized, reactive relationship to people and events in your life. These are all forms of self-created suffering, but they are not recognized as such because to the ego they are satisfying. The ego enhances itself through reactivity and conflict. How simple life would be without those stories. It is raining. He did not call. I was there. She was not.

Tolle, Eckhart (2009-03-25). Stillness Speaks (Kindle Locations 769-775). New World Library. Kindle Edition.

When you are suffering, when you are unhappy, stay totally with what is Now. Unhappiness or problems cannot survive in the Now.
Tolle, Eckhart (2009-03-25). Stillness Speaks (Kindle Locations 776-777). New World Library. Kindle Edition.

söndag 27 juli 2014

Poems, peace, unconditional love, awareness

[Some of these are poems in progress]

You are Peace, not a fragmented piece
You act as if you are a fragmented piece.
Devoid of peace.
Broken hopes and  dreams.
Full of regrets.
Filled with problems and suffering.
Stormy waters, tsunamis of pain.
Searching, searching and searching for completeness in the future.
I have been there my friend.
I know how it feels.
You are welcome Home.
When you are ready.
Whenever you want to.
When you are tired of all the constant seeking.
When you are ready to embrace what is already Here.
Home – a place filled of stillness, peace and unconditional love.
Home – Where you belong.
Finally Home.
After years of seeking I am finally Home.
I have always been Home.
I just identified  myself with a fragmented piece,
and so I went out on a search for peace.
Like a piece of a vase trying to find the other pieces to become complete.
Not realizing that it was connected to the vase all the time.
Not realizing that it was already complete.
I was a perfect and timeless wase.
But 'I' was mistaken myself to be a wase all shattered into pieces around the globe.
And 'I' went out for a search to find the other pieces that 'I' thought 'I' needed to become complete.
'I' searched and 'I' searched. And after a while I found a piece that 'I' though made me complete.
And for a moment 'I' felt complete.
But the completeness faded. 'I' got disappointed. And 'I' went out for the search again, and agian, and again, and again.
Until I realized that the true Me is already Complete.
And I gave up my search and embraced My Completeness.

Welcome Life

Welcome joy
Welcome sorrow
Welcome uncertainty of tomorrow
Welcome sunshine
Welcome rain
Welcome peace
Welcome pain
Welcome fears,
Welcome tears.
I embrace you all.
I dont try to run away.
I don't try to hide.
or to suppress you into a dark corner.
In my deep abide I face you.
you caused me alot of suffering because I was mistaken myself for being a limited fragmented cluster of feelings, sensations and thoughts; instead of unlimited awareness.
now when I know who I am.
I dare to face you.
and embrace you.
And now I am free.
Too see and embrace reality
You and me are One
united in an unlimited Mystery 
I abide as Presence. In the Now.
In the midst of waves of tranquility or fear..
I am Home, I feel Home. I am free. And there is no other place I want to be.
When I stop identifying with the regrets of the past;
And broken dreams and worries of the future;
And when I embrace the intimacy of the Now.
There is peace and love in the background.


You complete me
You complete me.
You make me whole.
You make me fly.
With you I am all at rest.
All at peace.
In a timeless moment.

Like the Deep Ocean is at rest in the midst of all waves and storms.
I am Home.
This is where I belong.
I sought and I sought.
In relationships and in objects.
For completeness.
And for moments,
I stopped my search (after finding an object/entering into/healing a relationship).
And in these precious moments,
I experienced love/beauty, peace and completeness.
It felt like Two became One.
United in Love.

But, some thoughts of lack appeared.
Or conflicts arose.
And I started my search again.
And the peace and completeness seemed to go away.
Where did You go?
Or were You always there?
Always here?
You were always here.

When I stopped searching, I found You.
And remained in You as long as I didn't search.
Remained feeling embraced by the Deep Ocean of Love and Beauty.
But I attributed this experience to persons.
I thought I got the completeness from objects and persons.
So when the feeling of completeness evaporated.
I thought that the problem was in a relationship.
Or that there was something wrong with me.
There was never any problem.
You were always there.
Observing all seeking.

I am already complete.
But I have mistaking myself for being someone else (a separate-self/cluster of thoughts, sensations and feelings).
I am already and always at rest.
Two are always One.
Unlimited Love
Always united in Love.
Unlimited Consciousness.
If you are not understanding everything above/want to explore more, I recommend

Anders Branderud

Stillness, peace, unconditional love - Living as Awareness

Some good quotes: 
“The playfulness and joy of a dog, .. [her] unconditional love and readiness to celebrate life at any moment often contrast sharply with the inner state of the dog's owner — depressed, anxious, burdened by problems, lost in thought, not present in the only place and only time there is: Here and Now. One wonders: living with this person, how does the dog manage to remain so sane, so joyous?” [1]

[Note: I am against the breeding and other use of animals. All individuals have the right to be born in freedom, and not to a life where they are limited / controlled by someone else (regardless of how good they are treated).]

“Bring awareness to the many subtle sounds of nature — the rustling of leaves in the wind, raindrops falling, the humming of an insect, the first birdsong at dawn. Give yourself completely to the act of listening. Beyond the sounds there is something greater: a sacredness that cannot be understood through thought.” 

There is a 'place' of stillness, peace, and unconditional love. That's the unchanging Awareness that we are, that is aware of all our ever changing feelings, thoughts and bodily sensations. 

1.I really recommend this book: Tolle, Eckhart (2009-03-25). Stillness Speaks (Kindle Locations 517-520). New World Library. Kindle Edition.


"We talk about 'body' and 'mind' as if they were two solid things. We talk about my body, my mind; your body, your mind. But, when we stop and take a fresh look, can we actually find something solid here called a 'mind'? Or, in this present moment, do we simply find thoughts coming and going? Isn't that all we can find - the dance of present moment thoughts? And we talk about the 'body', but when we stop and take a look, do we find something solid called a 'body', or simply this amazing, dynamic dance of present-moment sensations, waves arising and dissolving in the vast ocean of awareness? "

tisdag 15 juli 2014

Israel, Palestina - våld föder våld

Våld föder våld. Båda sidor av konflikten rättfärdigar sitt våld genom att säga att man försvarar sig mot den andra sidan.

Hamas skjuter många raketer från civila områden i Gaza. Alla dessa raketer är både skräckinjagande för Israels befolkning och väldigt dödliga om de träffar där de har som avsikt att träffa.... När Israels regering försöker attackera de som skjuter raketerna, dör även civila.  Israels regering har även i sitt förflutna gjort attacker mot hus som huserar terrorister, väl medvetna om att även deras familj kommer att dö. Självklart helt moraliskt förkastligt, vilket jag anser allt våld i denna konflikt är. Argumenten som förs är troligen att det är ett "nödvändigt ont" för att få slut på terroristattackerna. Det är också det som den israeliska befolkningen blir indoktrinerad med.

Några exempel på raketangrepp, etc., finns i denna artikel under 'Tactics': http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Palestinian_rocket_attacks_on_Israel

Jämföra omfånget av hur många som dör på båda sidor håller inte heller. Hamas har för avsikt att utplåna alla judar och gör allt som står i sin makt att göra det. Den enda anledningen till att fler judar inte blir dödade är p.g.a. att Israel är militärt starkare. Våld är våld - på båda sidor - lika oförsvarligt och moraliskt fel.

Israel försvarar sitt murbyggande, checkpoints, etc. med att det hindrar terroristattacker, vilket stämmer. Eller snarare: Det är en kortsiktig lösning, men ingen bra lösning, och ingen moraliskt försvarlig lösning. Det var en "lösning" som var ett svar på ständiga terroristattacker under flera år, och den minskade antalet terroristattacker.

Jag tycker fortfarande allt våld i denna konflikt är fel; men Israel kommer rättfärdiga sitt våld och fortsätta med sitt våld så länge som Gaza och Västbanken är styrt av organisationer som vill utplåna Israel;
och Hamas och dess understödjare kommer att rättfärdiga sitt våld så länge som Israel fortsätter att använda sig av våld i denna konflikt.. Och i Gaza och Västbanken blir man indoktrinerad i att våldet mot Israel är "nödvändigt", etcetera... Om någon sida skulle sluta med allt våld, skulle dessa våldsargument tappa sin kraft.

En ensidig kritik kommer aldrig lösa denna konflikt; och rättfärdigande av våld, murar, etc. kommer inte heller lösa denna konflikt..

Tror att allt våld och alla konflikter bottnar i att vi har inre krig med oss själva, och inte förstår vilka vi är och vår sanna identitet; att vi söker lycka i fel källa. Rekommenderar: https://www.youtube.com/user/lifewithoutacentre

Ett bra citat som jag gillar:

All over the world, and in the news every day, people killing people. People on one ‘side’ killing people on the other ‘side’. Each ‘side’ claiming that they are right. Each ‘side’ holding onto ancient pain, each ‘side’ unwilling to be the first to let go, coming up with all the reasons in the world why they can’t and won’t. A tragic tale as old as humanity itself. 

When will we wake up to the obvious fact that we are all the same Consciousness in disguise? That no matter who we think we are, no matter how we appear, beyond our stories and histories, our religions, our nationalities, our beliefs, the colour of our skin, our heavy pasts and uncertain futures, we are all expressions of the One life? That in truth there are no Israelis or Palestinians, Jews or Christians, Muslims or Buddhists, atheists or agnostics, Republicans or Democrats, gurus or disciples, that those images can never define us? That who we truly are at the most fundamental level is indefinable, mysterious, never fixed or separate, never identified with an image, just as the vast ocean can never be defined by its waves?

Consciousness has no religion, and no nationality. It gives birth to Palestinians and Israelis, gurus and disciples, light and dark, the yin and yang of the ever-changing dream world. As consciousness itself, when we hurt each other, we are only hurting our own brothers and sisters, our own kin, waves of ourselves. We are only fighting reflections of our original Face. We are only killing the ones we love, ancient friends from long ago.

Outer war has never lead to inner peace. How much more bloodshed? How much more pain? How many more men, women and children must disappear into infinity before we wake up? That bleeding child is my own. The circle of life takes no ‘sides’."

Jeff Foster, 

Jättevackert citat från jättefin sida:

In the Middle East, a Jew donates a kidney to a sick Palestinian, saving her precious life. In India, a woman feeds and washes those with leprosy, because she sees that we are all expressions of the very same consciousness and it brings her joy to live in this way, despite the names that others call her. In San Francisco, a gay son holds his elderly father's hand, and suddenly forgiveness happens as if by magic, unexpectedly, the weight and violence and resentment of a lifetime falling away, as if it never happened at all....
Teach your children the realities of the world, yes, but, more importantly, teach them the realities of their hearts and the hearts of those they call 'others'.
~ Jeff Foster

söndag 13 juli 2014

Non-duality, spirituality

“In this presence beyond presence,

In this place that is no place at all,

In this warm embrace I call myself,

Even a ‘no’ is a secret yes,

Even resistance is deeply allowed,

Even doubt is a celebration of life… “

- from ‘The Promise’

This is a quote from Jeff Foster. Life: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC-

This is a great and very helpful website: www.lifewithoutacentre.com/

Stillness, peace, unconditional love - Living as Awareness
Poems, peace, unconditional love, awareness
Unconditional love, love without conditions, a love that liberates

The Deepest Acceptance - Awakening in Ordinary

This is a good interview about relationsships.

Jeff Foster 'Conscious Relating: the Power of Honesty' interview by Eleonora Gilbert
: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LKbXYnVo6-M

I also really appreciate the teachings by Rupert Spira: http://non-duality.rupertspira.com/home

onsdag 9 juli 2014

Treat others as you yourself want to be treated. Be vegan

Love others as you yourself want to be loved.
Treat others as you yourself want to be treated.

Don't exploit others, as you yourself don't want to be exploited.
Don't kill others, not with a bullet when they are enjoying their day in the forest with their family, not with a hook when they are playing and relaxing with friends in the sea, not at a veterinary because that you claim you don't have enough energy to take care for them anymore. Don't kill anyone at all regardless of method, as you wouldn't want to be murdered even if someone did it while you where sleeping.

Don't breed others. Don't confine others. Don't deprive them of their family. Don't experiment on and exploit others in order to prolong your own life. Just as you don't want to be confined, deprived of your family, and be exploited for experiments.

Respect others and their fundamental interests. Don't use others for any purpose, including food, clothing, entertainment, education, companionship, help, vivisection, and all other purposes. It is not respectful and right to use someone without her mutual consent. Respect others, just like you want others to respect you and your fundamental interests; and you don't want to be used by others without your consent.

Don't breed up others to a life where they will be your property and their life will be controlled, and their freedom limited, to a large extent.

Dog, human, cat, mosquito, human, fish. all sentient beings have interests. Live a nonviolent and respectful life. Be vegan.

Learn more at: www.whyveganism.com